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Totowa Book of the Dead: a
photographic memoir, Laurie
Giardino |
These 19 photographs were on
exhibit at Clementine Gallery Nov 30, 2006 - Jan 6, 2007 |

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623 West
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11x14 silver gelatin prints
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[Some of the captions for
this gallery exhibit were
taken from chapter one.] |
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I grew up
in the land of more dead than living. Totowa, New Jersey is 22 miles west of
the George Washington Bridge. It covers 4.4 square miles and has five
cemeteries. The population is about 10,000, but there are more than 86,000
internments at Laurel Grove Cemetery alone. Coincidentally, people I grew up
with weren’t living to see 30. Many of my friends met untimely deaths: car
crashes, cancer, drugs, drowning and suicides. Then, members of my family
started to die. I had pictures of them all. My archive of negatives held a
personal documentary that started in the 1970’s and spanned decades. As the
years passed, I realized how much death and photography had affected my life.
Even photographs themselves have a life and a death. You can make a picture,
wash and store it in an archival process, maybe even keep it for a hundred
years, but inevitably a negative and a photograph will fade away. Still, I never
expected to see the day that my pictures would outlive the people in them. I
never expected that the people I loved would be the ones to fade away. |
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Mountain view, 1978 We
had this great party spot on the cliff that overlooks Totowa. The town is
nestled in a valley and from up there we could see Paterson’s Garrett
Mountain. We had a campsite on the rocky cliff and would party around a
bonfire into the early hours of the morning. The Totowa police frequently
raided our site. Someone eventually buried an ice chest in the ground to
hide our beer. That way, when the cops came they couldn’t pour our bottles
into the dirt, which they loved to do in their fruitless attempts to teach
us a lesson. My education went more like this: In grammar school I learned
grammar; in high school I learned to get high. |
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Mark
Matano
1955
– 2003
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Monty at the elk; Laurel Grove Cemetery, 1979
When you drive up
the road in Laurel Grove Cemetery, past the mausoleum, through a clearing in
the trees, you end up at the majestic elk. It was dedicated in 1890 and sits
on one of the graveyard’s highest points, overlooking Route 80. About 25
members of the Benevolent Paternal Order of Elks are buried around the base
of the monument. Special permission from the lodge gets you a plot there. My
friends and I would cut school and spend many an afternoon by the elk. We
would sun ourselves and sit at the top of the retaining wall, high above the
traffic speeding by on the interstate. Truckers would blow their horns. We’d
wave and dream about rides to San Francisco. At night, you could park there
with your boyfriend or meet up with other people in their cars and sit under
the moonlight. The roar of the highway competed with car stereos against the
still of the graveyard’s night. If the spirit moved you, you could climb up
and ride the elk. It was considered a rite of passage among the locals. |
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Mike
raking leaves, 1977 Totowa
neighborhoods didn’t have many trees. I think working-class people are
afraid of them. Trees make too much mess in the fall and cause cracks in the
sidewalks. Someone might slip and break their neck. The biggest threat of
the blue-collar existence was directly related to trees because someone
might sue and take your house away. My father had a chainsaw, and our
neighbor across the street helped him cut down both trees in front of our
house. Then, just for the hell of it, since he was also sick of dealing with
leaf maintenance, the neighbor asked my dad to cut down the two trees in
front of his house as well. The widowed old lady who lived next door to us
came outside during all the commotion. She wanted them to cut down her tree,
too. One guy even offered to pour a new cement sidewalk for her on the
following weekend. All day long I heard this incessant buzzing of the chain
saw and smelled burnt wood. I shuddered each time the branches violently
crashed onto the pavement. By the end of that Sunday afternoon, five trees
had been slaughtered on my street. My father and the neighbor were so proud,
standing there among the barren wasteland they had created, shirtless and
sweaty, with saw dust sticking to their bodies. Everything looked naked and
unusually bright. |
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Cozy’s
beach; Cozy’s
Sweet Shop, Totowa Road, 1979
(self-portrait with Deech, Joe and John)
Cozy’s Sweet
Shop on Totowa Road was the center of our universe. Larry and Nora Belbol
owned the store, and their son Joe helped run it. When you walked in, Larry
was at the front register, buried behind shelves of cigarettes and candy. He
had a rolling belly and wore huge black pants pulled high above his waist.
He looked like a smiling Buddha. Nora positioned herself behind the lunch
counter. She was talkative, eccentric and absent-minded. She had a great
sense of humor. Nora also flirted with the boys, took belly dancing lessons
and volunteered in a nursing home when she wasn’t at work. She was the
town’s matriarch. She watched out for you and taught you right from wrong.
Cozy’s was a magnet for generations of kids. Even in the summer, when they
didn’t have to pass Cozy’s to get to school, the little store was a favored
destination. The worst part of a Totowa summer was when Larry and Nora
closed down for four weeks. They were world travelers who went to a
different place every year. I loved looking at Nora’s pictures and hearing
her tales of the road. The summer of ’79 was especially lonely for me
because my best friend Marcy was spending a month in Las Vegas. She kept
sending me postcards, so right before Larry and Nora were closing for their
vacation, I decided to set up a beach scene on the sidewalk in front of the
store. I wrote, “Greetings from Cozy’s Beach. Having a wonderful time. Wish
you were here!” I made a copy for Joe Belbol, the guy holding the beach
ball, and he hung it behind the counter, where it stayed for more than ten
years. |
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Hanging out; The
Music Factory, Totowa Road, 1979
I had three
boyfriends from Totowa, and they were all named John. In fact, there were
about five other guys in our crowd named John, too. The man carrying the
plastic bag full of laundry was the last of my “Johns.” He was five years
older than me and the coolest guy I knew. I had admired him from afar, and
when I got older we dated. Tony Santini owned a store called Mr. Tapes, then
moved up the street next to Cozy’s and renamed it The Music Factory. He died
at 38 from a heart attack, leaving a wife and five kids.
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John
with a stick;
Laurel Grove Cemetery, 1978 John was pretending to do martial
arts. He would strike a pose, freeze in place, make another move and freeze
again. We’ve been close friends for more than 30 years. I’ve seen him handle
himself in every situation you can imagine, all over the world. He had
already hitchhiked across the country five times, was a literature major at
Montclair State and a taxi driver in New York City when this photo was
taken. |
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Pinball at Cozy’s;
Cozy’s Sweet Shop, Totowa Road, 1983 Willie had recently broken two of
his father’s ribs during a fight after his dad found drugs in the house.
Paul was unemployed. Muldoon drove a delivery truck for Wonder Bread. Joe
had his own contracting business. Somehow, on a daily basis, everyone
managed to fit a game of pinball into their busy schedules. |
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Nora Belbol
1916 – 1990 |
Cozy’s retirement party;
American Legion Hall, Union Boulevard, 1983
When Larry and
Nora retired, their sons, Larry Jr. and Joe, rented the Legion Hall in
Totowa and threw them a surprise party. Tickets were sold weeks in advance,
and dozens of us who had grown up in Cozy’s were there. Big John got the
first dance with Nora. |
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Schmedly at Pappy’s;
Pappy’s Diner, Union Boulevard, 1983
When you order a
“weiner all the way” at Pappy’s, you get a hot dog with mustard, raw onions
and Pappy’s famous chili sauce. I’ve seen many a Totowa man eat one in one
bite. Schmedley washes one down with a cigarette. |
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John
and Dora Tsigounis;
Pappy’s Diner, Union Boulevard, 1981
Pappy’s
Diner was rolled off the railroad tracks in the 1940s. Inside the
chrome-plated diner, they boiled hot dogs in oil, smothered them in a secret
chili sauce and called them Texas Wieners. John worked for Pappy, then
purchased the business in 1961. He and his wife have been running the place
ever since.
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Mom’s house, 1984
My
mother was married to a biker from the C.C. Riders Motorcycle Club, Paterson
chapter. She had been living with him since 1975. When I visited her home
with my friends, her husband would take out his weapons for us to play with.
Here is mom putting a flower on John’s ear as he aims. Joannie, from
Seattle, looks on. |
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Sal
Giardino
1935-1994
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Dad’s house, 1982
After
the divorce, my father Sal continued the tradition of cooking a large midday
meal on Sundays. First we would have an antipasto, then macaroni, then a
meat course. Grandma lived with us. Dad’s girlfriend visited on weekends.
Sal died at 58 from asbestos cancer in 1994, four months after he was
diagnosed. Three months later, my sister Kim was gone, too. |
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Mike in braces, with a
cigarette, 1976 I
started photographing my brother and sister in 1975 when I was 17 years old.
My brother Mike was 15 and Kim was 10. I took my first photography class as
a junior in high school. In those days, photography was part of the Shop
Department, thrown in there with woodworking and auto mechanics. I ended up
getting a D in the class for cutting too many times, but this did not deter
my love for the craft. |
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Kim Giardino
1966-1994 |
Kim
giving the peace
sign, 1976
We were
latch-key kids. Kim was my little sister, and when our mom moved out, I
became a sort of mini-mom. Kim always had a special affection for the peace
sign and wished she had been born in time to be a hippie. If she was born
too late, she also died too early. She was killed in a motorcycle accident
at age 28. Her fiancé was driving and survived. It happened a few weeks
before she was going to move in with him. She had already packed up most of
her belongings for the move. It was a strange feeling upon her death, to see
her boxes piled high in the basement. I designed her tombstone with a peace
sign covering a map of the eastern hemisphere. Her epitaph reads, “Peace and
Love.” |
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Howla Haggar–Sweeney
1958 - 2004 |
Howla, 1976
I knew
Howla since the sixth grade. She was the first of all my girlfriends to
smoke cigarettes, get drunk, lose her virginity, take drugs. The first to
have a baby, get married, get divorced and the first to die. Howla was
murdered at age 46. |
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Nicole and Raffi, 1981
Howla and her daughter
Nicole were part of my family and spent almost every holiday with us. I was
babysitting for Nicole, and we stopped by my friend Raffi’s house. He is an
Armenian-Turkish immigrant who moved to Totowa when he was a kid. She had
never met him before.
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Danny Smith
1955-1979 |
Danny in Washington Park
field, 1979 Danny
was a strong swimmer, but I guess the quarry got the better of him that day.
They had to dredge the bottom to find his body. If I hadn’t been chaperoning
my sister’s field trip, I would’ve been there. I saw Marcy that night, and
she was still holding his T-shirt and cigarettes. “He asked me to watch
these for him,” she said, crying. Marcy put the shirt up to her face, “It
still smells like him.” Pictures of Danny were still in my camera. I had
shot two rolls at the baseball field behind Washington Park School two days
before he died. I was nervous and scared when I developed them later that
week. I had to load the film into the developing tank in complete darkness.
I thought Danny was going to send me a sign. When the red light was on and
the first image began to appear in the developing tray, I was afraid he
wouldn’t show up in the photograph. I imagined a ghostly white image where
his body was supposed to be.
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Next generation, 1976 These
were the little brothers of my friends, the next generation. We nicknamed
them The Hoods. Partly it was because they traveled in packs like little
hoodlums, but also because everyone often wore the hoods of their
sweatshirts on their heads. We would greet each other in passing on the
street by yelling, “Hoods,” and they would respond, “Hoods.” |
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Patrick Nortorangelo
1959-1982 |
Patrick’s graffiti, 1984 Pat was
in a car with his girlfriend, arguing. She was driving on Route 80, heading
toward Totowa. It was the middle of the night, and they were coming from a
club. Pat had gotten into a fight with some guys at the bar. He wanted her
to drive him home so he could get his gun and go back for revenge. She
wouldn’t turn off at the Totowa exit and refused to stop the car. In a
defiant rage, he opened the door and jumped out of the car at 60 m.p.h. An
oncoming vehicle killed him. The same year, before Patrick died, he had
climbed up to the Route 46 overpass on Riverview Drive, which we called
Reefer Road, with a can of black paint. He wrote on the concrete, “P.N. will
never cry,” “Live & Let Die” and “Let it Be.” He always quoted the Beatles.
Someone returns every year to repaint the fading graffiti in his memory.
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Totowa Book of the Dead: a
photographic memoir
11x14 silver gelatin prints
No reproduction of any kind
without permission from the author
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